Sujata had everything in life. A caring family, earning and loving husband and two children. The birth of a second child completes a family, however for Sujata it meant way lot different. The 32 year old viewed the birth of her second infant as a sealing deal on her independence. Already burdened with household work and responsibilities associated with her first child, she felt trapped, anxious and confused.
Being an introvert she often had issues expressing herself and discussing her problems with her husband. On one hand the entire family was celebrating the birth of another child and inside the mother of the child felt trapped and suffocated. Her fears started to cause physical disabilities and the effects started to become apparent. She started to doubt her capabilities and feared that she would not be able to be a fair parent to two children. She stopped caring for her second child and would often escape household work and child care duties. Her disinterest to feed, wash and dress her second child were alarming signs for her husband, who first tried to reason with her and later decided that she did need some professional help.
Post Partum Depression – Needs Medical Attention:
Sujata and her family consulted Dr Ruby Ahuja, Consultant Psychology at Paras Bliss Hospital, Panchkula. Dr Ruby specializes in dealing with women suffering from Post Partum Depression, Menopausal Mood Swings and Post Traumatic Stress. According to Dr Ruby, “Depression is a major issue in women. Nearly 3 in every 5 women are at risk of suffering from a mental disease. It is first important for the family to understand that their loved one needs care & medical attention and secondly it is then on the patient to be motivated and determined to come out of it. On observing Sujata we realized that she was suffering from Post Partum Depression – A common occurrence in Indian women and often diagnosed due to low awareness.”
A Psychologist can treat Post Partum Depression:
Dr Ruby states that, “ The most common signs and symptoms of Post Partum Depression include insomnia, loss of appetite, intense irritability and difficulty bonding with the baby. Those who develop postpartum depression are at greater risk of developing major depression later on in life. Untreated, the condition may last months or longer. Treatment can include counseling, antidepressants or hormone therapy. For Sujata we wanted her to introspect ad reason with herself for her emotions and apprehensions. We also noticed that due to her unstable mental condition her relationship with her husband was also affected. She started to discuss suicide, which were warning bells for us.”
The Path of Recovery from Post Partum Depression:
Dr Ruby recommended couple counseling sessions along with some light medical regime for Sujata. Over the sessions, the couples opened up and her husband accepted that he could help her in her everyday duties. Sujata also regained her lost confidence and started to bond with her second child.
- Find the “ME” time for Sujata
- Taking care of diet just before feeding
- Taking an hour off from home and going for walk alone when her husband came from office and took charge of children
- Writing her emotional dairy everyday
The sessions rekindled the romance and trust that the two had in each other. Today after 3 months of close consultation and couple therapy sessions, Sujata is back to her usual self. She is busy planning her vacation with her family.
You ask her husband how he feels, he smiles and says, “My happiness lies in Sujata’s well being. Thanks to Dr Ruby for making me understand that my wife is not just my soul mate but the mother of my children and an integral part of my life. We need to appreciate the fine things in life.”