You can give the child a Cold Tether to bite. This helps the inflamed gums. You can also apply an anesthetic ointment incase of severe pain and irritation. This should be followed by gentle massage on the gums. It is important that you consult a doctor about the ointment. Ask your dental specialist about the pressure allowed for the massage and how to maintain the sterility of the cold tether. It is a tough time for your child and it is important to maintain patience during the same. A cranky child can test your nerves, but remain calm and remember that it is just a passing phase.